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I knew that starting another relationship within 2 months of my divorce was a bad idea.

And that dating someone whose divorce wasn’t final was another bad idea. But I didn’t know why, or what taking more time would do for either of us.

I learned the hard way:

If you date too soon, you focus on what you don't want to experience again.

For example, my ex put his business ahead of our family and broke his promises. He was present physically when we talked, but his mind was mostly somewhere else.

But my new guy didn't run a demanding business. He was there for me, did what he said he would, and gave me his full attention when we talked.

Having the connection I'd longed for made our relationship feel like destiny.

But it eventually becomes impossible to ignore the rest of the truth.

The feeling that we were soulmates lasted more than a year, long enough for us to get married.

As it wore off, one truth I started recognizing was that his teasing made me uncomfortable for a good reason. It wasn't playful, no matter what he said. It was passive aggressive.

How long should you wait?

Ac common piece of advice is to wait a year before dating after a divorce. But you can’t measure your relationship readiness in your calendar.

You measure it by how clear you are about what's true for you.

And by how much you trust yourself to live by that truth, no matter how attractive someone is.

Because when you trust yourself like this, you stop jumping into the wrong relationships and attract the right one instead.

So you can feel certain, committed, and deeply grateful every day.

Before you dive into a new relationship, dive into yourself.

You deserve the best,

Jenni

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