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“… but I won’t be divorced twice.”

This is how I thought about my second marriage.

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What came before the but?

The way he made fun of me in front of our friends, offered to pay for things but never did, said his job was to keep me from getting a swollen head.

And because I chose to downplay these, one thing followed the but:

I stayed in an unhealthy relationship for 11 years.

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Here’s what I wish I knew then:

A but signals we’re settling. It’s a sign we’re not letting ourselves have what we need and want. A strong, authentic relationship doesn’t come with a but.

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When you’re in a healthy relationship, no one has to compromise their needs or values to make it work.

You don’t need to concentrate on making someone else happy.

You don’t need to convince yourself it’s the right relationship for you.

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Here are some buts I’ve heard from clients:

“… but I’m not getting any younger.”

“… but she’s so caring.”

“… but he makes good money.”

Do you have a but in how you think about your relationship?

What are you downplaying?

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We get one life. You get to decide whether you spend it compromising.

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Sending you peace of mind, always,

Jenni

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P.S.

The key to authentic relationships is knowing your truth and trusting it enough to be clear and confident about what you need, want, and deserve.

Which is why I'm launching The Art of Connection.

This is a 6-week program where we’ll work together closely to help you overcome self-doubt and get your relationships back on track.

There are only 5 slots to make sure you get all the support you need to create strong, authentic relationships.

A few people are already interested—you can join the waitlist here.

It starts in December.